Two Become One

Greetings in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ,

I had determined earlier in the summer that I wouldn’t do anymore weddings. I did make an exception in that I would do one for someone in the family or someone that I had known for a long time. Of course, when a member of the church asked if I could do her granddaughters, I just couldn’t say no.

This past weekend I had the opportunity to do the wedding for this young couple. I have known the young lady since she was just a young girl. The young man I had only met when we got together so I could counsel with them.

The wedding took place at a venue just south of Amarillo in Starlight Canyon. I will have to say that it was a beautiful spot and was a great fit for this young couple. Sure it was a little warm, but there was a little breeze that made things a little more comfortable.

I was able to share with them about their responsibility to one another through life and what they might possibly face. This couple seems ready to face what is ahead of them and I pray that their union will stand the test of time.

Yet I shared with them that trouble will come to their marriage. Things won’t always be like their wedding with the flowers, music, with friends and family all gathered around them. There will be times when struggles will arise and trials will come. At times it will just be tough.

They were going to do a pouring of the sand following the exchange of rings. On the night of rehearsal, the bride gave me what she wanted me to say before they poured the sand. Let me share it.

“Today you join your separate lives together. The two separate bottles of sand symbolize your separate lives, separate families and separate sets of friends. They represent all that you are and all that you will ever be as an individual. They also represent your lives before today.

As these two containers of sand are poured into the third container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as the grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will your marriage be.”

This made me think of what Jesus said in Mark 10 where the Pharisees questioned Him concerning divorce and what Moses permitted. But Jesus said it was because of the hardness of their hearts.

In Mark 10:6-9, He said, “But from the beginning of creation, God made them male and female. 7 For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, 8 and the two shall become one flesh; consequently they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”

When they poured that sand together, it symbolized them bringing together their lives so that they were no longer two but one body. What the bride asked me to share and what God’s Word says, spoke to my heart and encouraged me for the lives of this couple.

It is my prayer that they will come together under God, they will walk in obedience to His Word and be together until separated by death. Of course, this has been my prayer for every couple for whom I have done a wedding.

I recognize that many marriages have not stood the test of time. Issues have arisen and caused marriages to break up. There are times when couples have determined that they were better friends than they were mates. Regardless of the reason, it is never easy.

One thing that I try to do is get a couple to think beyond the moment and look down through the years. I know it is difficult, but if they are open and honest they can see what may well lay before them. In fact, that is something that each of us can do.

Marriage is never ‘easy’, but when two people surrender themselves to each other, they can have the strength they need. I know you may not know this couple, but just pray for them and that they will celebrate life together ‘until death makes them separate again.’

JESUS, JESUS, JESUS, there IS something about that name!!

Christ only, always,

Bro. Paul